Sunday, December 28, 2008

The famous three words

As I was growing up my parents didn't say "I love you" to me. I knew that they did love me, but they never said it. They divorced when I was very young so I didn't experience them saying it to each other either. I grew up thinking that just being there and showing up everyday meant that you loved someone.

I have been lucky enough to meet a man that tells me everyday that he loves me. Everyday of our marriage (almost 9 years now) he has told me that he loves me. This is the example that we have shown to our children. I tell my kids that I love them. Even when I am mad at them or they are mad at me I tell them that I love them.

I have learned that it makes a difference! I have teen and young adult boys and they are not afraid to say "I love you" to their girlfriends or us as parents. Love is one of the greatest gifts that a person can ever give and I hope that we have shown our boys that love is something that it is okay to express.

I don't pine away wishing my parents told me that they loved me or any of that garbage, but I wonder if I would have thought differently of things if they had said it or shown it differently? I am glad that I didn't repeat the cycle and do the same to my children, if you love someone you should tell them. Words can make a difference even if it doesn't seem like they do.

Just a few words can make a difference and those can be the inches that change an attitude toward life in general.

Saturday, December 27, 2008

New Year's Resolutions

What resolutions do we make as people that really get kept?

Most of us want to loose weight, save money, get our finances in order, learn something new, etc...

Everyone decides that the new year will be yet another new start. What if we concentrated on something different this year. What if we resolve to volunteer for more worthy causes? How about a resolution to give more to charity. Why can't we as people make resolutions to help others and improve the world. Wouldn't those be much better resolutions? Wouldn't improving the world improve us as people?

I am just as guilty as others I want to loose weight, save more money, blah blah blah...

I also want to be a better person so I am also gonna try to volunteer more and give more to charities too.

If we give a few inches to others won't it make the world a better place.

Friday, December 26, 2008

letting down

Isn't it odd that anticipation for Christmas build and builds after thanksgiving. Then Christmas Eve arrives and children (of every age) are almost shaking with delight. The blessed day arrives and the wrapping paper and ribbons fly in all directions.

What then???

December 26th arrives and it is back to business as usual. Problem is there hasn't been a normal in more than a month and it is a limbo day.

How many inches of life are you in limbo?

Thursday, December 25, 2008

4 am Who knew?

Who would have thought that so many thoughts could process at 4 am.Until about 3 days ago I didn't really acknowledge much between midnight and 6 am.

Of course when you have a dog that keeps eating things that she shouldn't you find that 4 is the magic hour when she will have to go outside. And let's face it I would rather open the door and stand in the cold than take the chance and have to clean up after her when I didn't listen.

Then I am one of the lucky people in life I get to curl up in bed next to the love of my life. Of course at this moment that love sounds like someone trying to start a chainsaw. Which would be why I am blogging instead of sleeping.

Then of course we must also consider that it is Christmas morning and the kids will be up in a few hours. There is something wrong with my water and it is coming out yellow, and there is no way I can afford a plumber on a holiday.

Would I trade lives with someone right now???

Not in a million years. I have LOVE in my life and FAITH that it will be ok!

Wednesday, December 24, 2008

Lots of inches ago

I have not blogged in quite some time and many inches of life have passed me by now.

It is Christmas Eve here and there are really no creatures stirring. The kids are here and there and things are quiet. It has been quite a year. Everyone is back in our home again, except the oldest child who has moved out. He is only 3 miles away and we see him a lot so it doesn't feel like he is gone. My career has changed and I have added quite a few friends to my circle. I have also added quite a bit more faith to my life.

I feel as if I have a different outlook on some things. I have begun to look inward and how I react to the things that happen. Not things that happen to me because I am the one that controls how I react others can not do things to me if I do not allow it to be personal.

Things along the path of life I go and the inches will pass by, stay tuned and we can watch the inches pass with faith and humor.